The most effective spray I've found for mites has been Methiocarb, found in Provado aerosol. Unfortunately I can't find it except mised with the Imidacloprid. Soaps, oils, alcohols, and plain water all have some effect but unless I get 100% kill on my greenhouse succulents they just come back twice as strong. They are also a pain because they mark some plants or mess up wool. My mites appear to be resistant to some other sprays. Westland Bug Attack with Abamectin is also a good one, also combined with a systemic insecticide.
P.S. I've also used Resmethrin. It stinks and the the slightest amount too much really burns the plants.