Michael,
So sorry to hear of your brother's death. My sympathies are with you on this sad occasion.
Regarding the forum: yes indeed, there are times when some (No, not you Maggi if you are reading this) take on the role of correcting other people's postings, naming of plants etc but please don't let this put you off. It is not something that is a general practice and the vast majority of members are simply the best in the world and certainly welcome your contributions and continued participation. And anyway, you do need to show these Brits and mainlanders how to grow plants properly.
Paddy